At this time in my life, I certainly do not want to begrudge anyone whatever it takes for them to continue to walk with God. If one must start believing that tongues ceased at the close of the apostolic age, then that's what they have to do. None of us is perfect, or even all that strong. I'd like to try to start viewing everyone in a more positive light and realize we are all in this struggle together.

On the other hand, the truth is the truth. And since it has recently been asserted that Pentecostals misinterpret 1 Corinthians 13 and that tongues DID cease, I'd like to offer the following observations of mine and the observations of a number of non-Pentecostal scholars.

Steve B. has become quite convinced that present-day tongues speaking is "misguided and serve(s) no good purpose." He goes on to explain that

Steve B wrote:
Since coming out of Pentecostalism, I've concluded that as a Pentecostal, I completely misunderstood the role and work of the Holy Spirit. His role was never primarily to produce supernatural "sign" gifts such as tongues and prophecy. Those served only temporarily to validate the preaching of the apostles (and, by the way, the only kind of real apostles are those called personally by Jesus - the original twelve, one of whom fell and was replaced by another, plus Paul) and their message of the gospel before it existed in complete, written form. After that time, attempts to prophesy and speak in tongues are misguided and serve no good purpose. I feel no compunction at all about completely dismissing all modern instances of so-called prophecy and tongues. As you've noticed, and as I completely agree, they've led only to confusion, instability, and disorder among those who advocate them.

... Further, and more importantly, he gave those instructions in a transitory period before the written New Testament was finished. He (Paul) says in the same letter (in chapter 13) that both tongues and prophecies would cease - the "piecemeal" things would be done away when the "complete" comes (both words in quotes are more accurate translations of Greek words for which the KJV uses "in part" and "perfect").

The modern charismatic and Pentecostal movements have therefore introduced much confusion and instability into the church by denying, twisting, or ignoring these Scriptural instructions. It's best to get out of charismatic and Pentecostal churches entirely instead of trying to make sense of their teaching on prophecy and tongues - because it's impossible to do so. Trying to understand and follow their confused notions about the Holy Spirit's work will only lead to increased dissatisfaction and frustration.

I'd like to submit that if anyone is twisting the scriptures, this argument is. 1 Corinthians 13 clearly states:

1Co 13:9-13 NASB:
(9) For we know in part and we prophesy in part;
(10) but when the perfect comes, the partial will be done away.
(11) When I was a child, I used to speak like a child, think like a child, reason like a child; when I became a man, I did away with childish things.
(12) For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face; now I know in part, but then I will know fully just as I also have been fully known.
(13) But now faith, hope, love, abide these three; but the greatest of these is love.

1 - Now we know in part (vs. 9), but there is coming a time when the partial will be done away with.

2 - The same is then illustrated with a child becoming a man. Again, the child spoke and reasoned as a child (i.e. knowing in part), but when the child became a man, he did away with childish things (the partial is done away with).

3 - Again, Paul gives a 3rd view; now we see through a mirror dimly (know in part; speak as a child), but then face to face (partial will be done away, the man puts away childish things).

4 - Paul goes one step further to say, "now I know in part, but then I will know fully just as I also have been fully known."

Is Paul simply speaking of the completion of the NT? If so, do we now see face to face and know fully just as we also have been fully known?

Why then do we read Paul's writings when we now know fully but he only had partial knowledge?

The perfect coming will result in the partial being done away with and also with us knowing fully face-to-face. This has not yet happened.

Non-Pentecostal scholars agree:

Albert Barnes wrote:
They [tongues] shall cease. Macknight supposes this means they shall cease in the church after the gospel shall have been preached to all nations. But the more natural interpretation is, to refer it to the future life; since the main idea which Paul is urging here is the value of love above all other endowments, from the fact that it would be abiding, or permanent—an idea which is more certainly and fully met by a reference to the future world than by a reference to the state of things in the church on earth.

Arnold Bittlinger wrote:
The gifts are necessary equipment for the pilgrim people of God.... It is not until our pilgrimage comes to an end that the spiritual gifts will cease. "Whoever teaches that they cease before then, is irresponsibly anticipating the end (telos).

F.F. Bruce wrote:
It is true that, according to 1 Cor. 13:8-10, prophecies, tongues, and knowledge are to be done away, but only 'when that which is perfect is come'.... The literature of the period following the apostolic age makes it plain that they (the gifts) did not come to a full stop with the closing of the New Testament canon.

Donald W. Burdick (professor of New Testament at Conservative Baptist Theological Seminary at the time of writing) wrote:
Many have cited I Corinthians 13:8 as proof that tongues would cease, and there can be no doubt but that this verse does explicitly declare the cessation of this gift.... We must notice, however, that this verse does not say that tongues were to cease at the end of the apostolic age. In fact, it allows for the exis­tence of tongues until 'that which is perfect' has come (v. 10), and then 'shall I know even as I am known' '(v. 12).... The general sense of the verse points, not to an experience of this life or this age, but to the time when salvation is complete and we see Christ 'as he is' (I John 3:2). Then there will be no more place for tongues or prophecy for knowledge will be complete. To make I Corinthians 13:8 prove that God intended glossolalia to cease at the end of the apostolic age is to violate the valid rules of biblical interpretation in the interest of a previously determined position.

C.J. Ellicott wrote:
After the parousia [the presence of Christ at his Coming], prophesyings, tongues, and even knowledge itself... will be done away with.

Charles R. Erdman wrote:
The contrast in his Hymn of Love was not between the Apostolic Age and the present time, but between the present age as a whole and the future age which is to be ushered in by the return of Christ.

F.L. Godet wrote:
Such manifestations therefore give evidence of a real faculty latent in the depths of the human soul which a profound religious awakening may call into exercise at any time under fixed conditions, and the creative action of which may yet in our day produce effects similar to those of the first days of the Church. We were not wrong, therefore, in maintaining the possibility of the reappearance of gifts during the whole course of the present economy (see 13:8 )....

Michael Green wrote:
It is simply not the case that healing, prophecy, exorcism and speaking in tongues died out with the last apostle. Still less can a passage like I Corinthians 13:8 ('as for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease ...') be adduced to attest the supposed demise of these gifts. They will pass away only when 'the perfect comes,' i.e. at the Parousia—not at the end of the apostolic age or the formation of the New Testament canon! There is in fact plenty of evidence in the sub-apostolic days, and periodically throughout Church history, to show that these gifts did not die out, though they were often viewed with great suspicion by Church authorities.... And it is perfectly evident from the widespread growth of the Pentecostal Church and the neo-Pentecostal movement in the last fifty years that God has poured out these gifts in rich measure on his people, rationalistic and sceptical though we have been about them.

C.F. Kling (Lange's Commentary): wrote:
... Whatever may be the exegesis given this passage, the prevailing belief is that these gifts, especially those of miraculous nature, were destined only for the apostolic period, and have already ceased. But this, certainly, it was not the intention of the Apostle to assert here. The time alluded to is undoubtedly that of 'the age to come,' ushered in by the second advent of the Lord.

Alexander Maclaren wrote:
With regard to the former statement, 'whether there be prophecies, they shall fail, whether there be tongues, they shall cease,' that has been misunderstood as if it amounted to a declaration that the miraculous gifts in the early Church were intended to be of brief dura­tion. However true that may be, it is not what Paul means here. The cessation to which he refers is their cessation in the light of the perfect Future.

Julian C. McPheeters wrote:
In eternity the spiritual gifts needful here and now will be supplanted by higher ways of service.

H.A.W. Meyer wrote:
With the advent of the absolute the imperfect finite ceases to exist, as the dawn ceases after the rising of the Sun.... What Paul means and says is that these charismata generally, as being designed only for the aeon of the partial, and not in correspondence with the future aeon of the perfect, will cease to exist at the Parousia; their design, which is merely temporary, is then fulfilled. With the advent of the Parousia the other charismata too (12:8ff.) surely cease altogether.

James Moffatt wrote:
Great as is the value even of prophecy, knowledge, and 'tongues,' their function is confined to the brief interval till the Lord returns....

Clark H. Pinnock and Grant R. Osborne wrote:
The New Testament no­where teaches that the gifts were given solely to authenticate the apostles or that they were to cease after the apostolic age.... First Corinthians 13 is a bridge passage between his remarks on the distribution of gifts (chap. 12) and their regulation (chap. 14). In it the apostle indicates that love is the context in which all the gifts must be exercised. The only cessation to which he refers is that which occurs at the coming of Christ (v. 10).

A.T. Robertson and A. Plummer wrote:
The Apostle is saying nothing about the cessation of charismata in this life.... All that he asserts is, that these things will have no use when completeness is revealed; and therefore they are inferior to Love.

M.F. Sadler wrote:
It has been made a matter of question what time the Apostle alludes to as the one in which these manifestations of the Spirit shall cease, and some have supposed that the present state of the Church in which prophecy and tongues have ceased is that to which he alludes, but this seems to me impossible. Surely this, our present state, is anything but perfect. It certainly is not perfect in love, for it has declined from the love of the first age. The perfect state is evidently that in which our bodies will be raised in the likeness of Christ's and our faculties of receiving knowledge will not be logged then as they are now by the conditions and limitations of our unrenewed frames, but the body will then answer to the spirit in its highest state.

T.T. Shore (Ellicott's Commentary) wrote:
That which is perfect. - This verse shows, by the emphatic 'then,' that the time when the gifts shall cease is the end of this dispensation. The imperfect shall not cease until the perfect is brought in (See Eph. 4:11-13).